Writings
Choices, Manifesting and Hidden "No's"
July 07
Those of you who have taken our Quantum Coaching,
Masterful Coaching or Advanced Facilitation and
Leadership programs are familiar with the "Choice
List" process. The movie The Secret is enjoying
tremendous popularity currently and is based on
many principles similar to those embedded in the
Choice List process.
We have some clients who begin experimenting with The Secret concepts on their own and become frustrated because their visions are not coming to fruition. Why? For some others, there are Choice List items that are not manifesting. Why?
If you are experiencing any frustration in creating more of the life you want, we want to introduce you to the concept of the hidden "no." Often we have hidden resistance to creating more of the things that we say we truly want in our lives. This hidden resistance may stem from several causes including:
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Prisoner Syndrome - hidden beliefs and fears about what we would do with success
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Payback Motivation - we are unconsciously wanting to make someone in our life "pay" by showing them we won't succeed!
This second cause is very subtle. We often have "unfinished" business with important people in our lives that gives rise to the Payback Motivation.
Practice: Investigating Your Hidden "No's"
- Write a list of things you have wanted for some time and have not created in your life.
- Ask yourself:
• Is there a hidden price I believe I would have to pay for having this thing?
• Is there an identity I am attached to that would be changed somehow if I manifested what I want?
• Is there someone I secretly want to "prove right" by failing?